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Failure

When it went wrong, and what came of it.

Tell me about a failure that shaped you. What did it cost, and what did it give you?

Facets

The angles failure keeps showing up at, across thousands of years.

Harm we bring upon ourselves

Wrong action, passion, and ignorance destroy the one who indulges them, not just their targets.

28 passages · 5 traditions

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Facing one's own faults first

The consistent call to examine and correct oneself before judging or blaming others.

21 passages · 5 traditions

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Reckoning and consequences arrive

Failure is not random: deeds accumulate and their fruits return to the doer, in this life or the next.

15 passages · 4 traditions

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Overreach and the fall that follows

Straining too hard — for glory, power, or excess — breaks what it sought to build.

17 passages · 5 traditions

  • He who speaks without modesty will find it difficult to make his words good.

    Confucianism · Analects, 14.21, tr. James Legge, 1893

  • It is better to leave a vessel unfilled, than to attempt to carry it when it is full. If you keep feeling a point that has been sharpened, the point cannot long preserve its sharpness.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 9-16.9, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • And walk not proudly on the earth, for thou canst not cleave the earth, neither shalt thou reach to the mountains in height.

    Qur’an · Qur'an, 17.17:37, tr. J. M. Rodwell, 1861

  • He who stands on his tiptoes does not stand firm; he who stretches his legs does not walk (easily). (So), he who displays himself does not shine; he who asserts his own views is not distinguished; he who vaunts himself does not find his merit acknowledged; he who is self-conceited has no superiority allowed to him.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 17-24.24, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • Now-a-days they give up gentleness and are all for being bold; economy, and are all for being liberal; the hindmost place, and seek only to be foremost;--(of all which the end is) death.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 65-72.67, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • People in their conduct of affairs are constantly ruining them when they are on the eve of success. If they were careful at the end, as (they should be) at the beginning, they would not so ruin them.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 57-64.64, tr. James Legge, 1891

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  • Who is content needs fear no shame. Who knows to stop incurs no blame. From danger free long live shall he.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 41-48.44, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • If any one should wish to get the kingdom for himself, and to effect this by what he does, I see that he will not succeed. The kingdom is a spirit-like thing, and cannot be got by active doing. He who would so win it destroys it; he who would hold it in his grasp loses it.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 25-32.29, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • There is no guilt greater than to sanction ambition; no calamity greater than to be discontented with one's lot; no fault greater than the wish to be getting. Therefore the sufficiency of contentment is an enduring and unchanging sufficiency.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 41-48.46, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • He who lightly promises is sure to keep but little faith; he who is continually thinking things easy is sure to find them difficult. Therefore the sage sees difficulty even in what seems easy, and so never has any difficulties.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 57-64.63, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • They shall wear elegant and ornamented robes, carry a sharp sword at their girdle, pamper themselves in eating and drinking, and have a superabundance of property and wealth;--such (princes) may be called robbers and boasters. This is contrary to the Tao surely!

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 49-56.53, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • The great Tao (or way) is very level and easy; but people love the by-ways.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 49-56.53, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • What was in front is now behind; what warmed anon we freezing find. Strength is of weakness oft the spoil; the store in ruins mocks our toil. Hence the sage puts away excessive effort, extravagance, and easy indulgence.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 25-32.29, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • one who makes his name great causes his name to be destroyed; one who does not add [to his knowledge] causes [it] to cease; one who does not study [the Torah] deserves death; one who makes [unworthy] use of the crown [of learning] shall pass away.

    Rabbinic Judaism · Pirkei Avot, 1.1:13, tr. Sefaria (CC-BY), 2024

  • Hence he who (relies on) the strength of his forces does not conquer; and a tree which is strong will fill the out-stretched arms, (and thereby invites the feller.) Therefore the place of what is firm and strong is below, and that of what is soft and weak is above.

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 73-80.76, tr. James Legge, 1891

  • Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.

    Hebrew & Christian Bible · Bible, Proverbs.Proverbs 16:18, tr. King James Version (1611/1769), 1611

  • There is always One who presides over the infliction of death. He who would inflict death in the room of him who so presides over it may be described as hewing wood instead of a great carpenter. Seldom is it that he who undertakes the hewing, instead of the great carpenter, does not cut his own hands!

    Taoism · Tao Te Ching, 73-80.74, tr. James Legge, 1891

Trouble as teacher, not verdict

Suffering and setback are part of life's fabric and can instruct rather than merely punish.

17 passages · 5 traditions

  • Every soul shall taste of death: and for trial will we prove you with evil and with good; and unto Us shall ye be brought back.

    Qur’an · Qur'an, 21.21:35, tr. J. M. Rodwell, 1861

  • Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.

    Hebrew & Christian Bible · Bible, Proverbs.Proverbs 13:12, tr. King James Version (1611/1769), 1611

  • Oh, wretched I, to whom this mischance is happened! nay, happy I, to whom this thing being happened, I can continue without grief; neither wounded by that which is present, nor in fear of that which is to come. Now to conclude; upon all occasion of sorrow remember henceforth to make use of this dogma, that whatsoever it is that hath happened unto thee, is in very deed no such thing of itself, as a misfortune; but that to bear it generously, is certainly great happiness.

    Stoicism · Meditations, 4.XLI, tr. George Long, 1862

  • Whensoever by some present hard occurrences thou art constrained to be in some sort troubled and vexed, return unto thyself as soon as may be, and be not out of tune longer than thou must needs. For so shalt thou be the better able to keep thy part another time, and to maintain the harmony, if thou dost use thyself to this continually; once out, presently to have recourse unto it, and to begin again.

    Stoicism · Meditations, 6.IX, tr. George Long, 1862

  • My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

    Hebrew & Christian Bible · Bible, James.James 1:2-4, tr. King James Version (1611/1769), 1611

  • As we say commonly, The physician hath prescribed unto this man, riding; unto another, cold baths; unto a third, to go barefoot: so it is alike to say, The nature of the universe hath prescribed unto this man sickness, or blindness, or some loss, or damage or some such thing... These therefore let us accept of in like manner, as we do those that are prescribed unto us our physicians. For them also in themselves shall we find to contain many harsh things, but we nevertheless, in hope of health, and recovery, accept of them.

    Stoicism · Meditations, 5.VIII, tr. George Long, 1862

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Return and restoration after falling

The fallen, penitent, or discouraged can be received back, renewed, and set on course again.

21 passages · 4 traditions

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Words that outrun deeds

Promises, boasts, and learning that are not matched by action are a recognized form of failure.

14 passages · 4 traditions

  • He who speaks without modesty will find it difficult to make his words good.

    Confucianism · Analects, 14.21, tr. James Legge, 1893

  • Can men refuse to assent to the words of strict admonition? But it is reforming the conduct because of them which is valuable. Can men refuse to be pleased with words of gentle advice? But it is unfolding their aim which is valuable. If a man be pleased with these words, but does not unfold their aim, and assents to those, but does not reform his conduct, I can really do nothing with him.

    Confucianism · Analects, 9.23, tr. James Legge, 1893

  • To see what is right and not to do it is want of courage.

    Confucianism · Analects, 2.24, tr. James Legge, 1893

  • Though a man may be able to recite the three hundred odes, yet if, when intrusted with a governmental charge, he knows not how to act, or if, when sent to any quarter on a mission, he cannot give his replies unassisted, notwithstanding the extent of his learning, of what practical use is it?

    Confucianism · Analects, 13.5, tr. James Legge, 1893

  • all my days I grew up among the sages, and I have found nothing better for a person than silence. Study is not the most important thing, but actions; whoever indulges in too many words brings about sin.

    Rabbinic Judaism · Pirkei Avot, 1.1:17, tr. Sefaria (CC-BY), 2024

  • O that ye would altogether hold your peace! and it should be your wisdom.

    Hebrew & Christian Bible · Bible, Job.Job 13:5, tr. King James Version (1611/1769), 1611

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