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The evolution of wisdom

No one thinks alone. Pick a question and follow it forward: the text that asked it first, the traditions that reached for it again centuries later and half a world away, and the people answering it now.

Love

What is something you used to believe about love that you no longer believe? What changed your mind?

Romantic and otherwise — the practice of caring for another person over time.

  1. ~10th c. BCE – 1st c. CE

    Hebrew & Christian Bible

    Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, the Psalms, the Sermon on the Mount, and the parables. Foundational to Western moral language.

  2. ~8th c. BCE – 4th c. CE

    Hinduism

    Bhagavad Gita and Upanishads — dialogues on duty, action, and self.

  3. ~6th – 4th c. BCE

    Taoism

    Tao Te Ching, attributed to Laozi — terse, paradoxical aphorisms on living with the grain of things.

    • The sage does not accumulate (for himself). The more that he expends for others, the more does he possess of his own; the more that he gives to others, the more does he have himself.

      Laozi describes the paradoxical economy of the sage, in which generosity increases rather than depletes one's own resources.

    • Bad men it guards, and doth their ill efface. (Its) admirable words can purchase honour; (its) admirable deeds can raise their performer above others. Even men who are not good are not abandoned by it.

      On the universal reach of the Tao — it does not withhold itself even from those who have done wrong.

  4. ~5th c. BCE onward

    Buddhism

    Dhammapada and selected sutras — terse, principle-rich verses on suffering, attachment, and right action.

    • For hatred does not cease by hatred at any time: hatred ceases by love, this is an old rule.

      ↓ Reached for again — Stoicism, 3rd c. BCE – 2nd c. CE46% resonance

      Will any contemn me? let him look to that, upon what grounds he does it: my care shall be that I may never be found either doing or speaking anything that doth truly deserve contempt. Will any hate me? let him look to th…

      Meditations, 11.XII, tr. George Long, 1862

    • From love comes grief, from love comes fear; he who is free from love knows neither grief nor fear.

      ↓ Reached for again — Stoicism, 3rd c. BCE – 2nd c. CE48% resonance

      He that preferreth before all things his rational part and spirit, and the sacred mysteries of virtue which issueth from it, he shall never lament and exclaim, never sigh; he shall never want either solitude or company:…

      Meditations, 3.VIII, tr. George Long, 1862

  5. ~5th c. BCE

    Confucianism

    Analects of Confucius — sayings on conduct, governance, and moral cultivation.

    • Can there be love which does not lead to strictness with its object? Can there be loyalty which does not lead to the instruction of its object?

      Confucius challenges a shallow understanding of love and loyalty, arguing that genuine care requires honest correction.

    • They are, in regard to the aged, to give them rest; in regard to friends, to show them sincerity; in regard to the young, to treat them tenderly.

      Confucius states his own deepest wishes when asked by disciples, summarizing his relational ideals.

      ↓ Reached for again — Rabbinic Judaism, ~3rd c. CE48% resonance

      Let the honor of your friend be as dear to you as your own; And be not easily provoked to anger; And repent one day before your death.

      Pirkei Avot, 2.2:10, tr. Sefaria (CC-BY), 2024

  6. 3rd c. BCE – 2nd c. CE

    Stoicism

    Greco-Roman school of practical philosophy on virtue, agency, and acceptance. Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, Seneca.

    • meekness is a thing unconquerable, if it be true and natural, and not affected or hypocritical. For how shall even the most fierce and malicious that thou shalt conceive, be able to hold on against thee, if thou shalt still continue meek and loving unto him?

      One of Marcus's nine counsels on anger: genuine gentleness disarms hostility in a way that force cannot.

    • Him that offends, to teach with love and meekness, and to show him his error. But if thou canst not, then to blame thyself; or rather not thyself neither, if thy will and endeavours have not been wanting.

      ↓ Reached for again — Qur’an, 7th c. CE57% resonance

      For his own good only shall the guided yield to guidance, and to his own loss only shall the erring err; and the heavy laden shall not be laden with another's load.

      Qur'an, 17.17:15, tr. J. M. Rodwell, 1861

  7. ~3rd c. CE

    Rabbinic Judaism

    Pirkei Avot (Ethics of the Fathers) — concise principles for living, distilled from the early rabbinic period.

    • All love that depends on a something, [when the] thing ceases, [the] love ceases; and [all love] that does not depend on anything, will never cease.

      The mishna illustrates conditional vs. unconditional love with biblical examples: Amnon's lust for Tamar versus David and Jonathan's friendship.

    • be of the disciples of Aaron, loving peace and pursuing peace, loving mankind and drawing them close to the Torah.

      Hillel holds up Aaron the High Priest as a model of active peacemaking and universal love.

      ↓ Reached for again — Qur’an, 7th c. CE39% resonance

      Fear ye not, for I am with you both. I will hearken and I will behold.

      Qur'an, 20.20:46, tr. J. M. Rodwell, 1861

  8. 7th c. CE

    Qur’an

    Central scripture of Islam. Ethical teachings, parables, and prophetic narratives.

    • Who though longing for it themselves, bestowed their food on the poor and the orphan and the captive: 'We feed you for the sake of God: we seek from you neither recompense nor thanks.'

      A description of the righteous — those who give charitably despite their own need, expecting nothing in return.

    • We have not sent thee otherwise than as mercy unto all creatures.

      God describes the Prophet Muhammad's mission as universal mercy, not exclusive benefit.

  9. Now

    Living voices

    The same question, answered by people who are still working it out.

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